Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Jobs and Relationships

It's been so long since my last blog post. I feel the need to write. For a long time, I have compared jobs to relationships and vice versa. We are looking for "the one"...whether it's a job or the signficant other. I strongly believe the two have a lot in common.

For both...
You want to make a great first impression.
You want growth in both.
You don't want to cheat on either. If you are cheating, what you have currently going on is not satisfying you. Or it is not giving you something you need or deserve.
You want good, open communication.
You want to have input in your future.
You want "the one" you find to be your last one.
If there's bad news, you would like to be treated as an adult and treated with respect. Meaning, you should be talked to in person and not in a memo or e-mail.
And vice versa, if you have to leave, do it respectfully. Be a good person. Show that you have class.
The transition process from one to another can be awkward and requires time.

In the Business Communication class I teach, I say to my students all the time to treat people like how you would like to be treated. The Golden Rule. Even if you have to fire an employee and it is unpleasant, do them the favor and tell them in person. It could be a learning experience for them as well as for you. I am such a huge believer in this. I try to treat students and colleagues with a positive attitude and support them.

Over my career in which I have worked numerous jobs, I have noticed that the "rules" I have listed in my comparison to relationships, usually hold true.


Daisy said...

These comparisons make good sense to me. Nice post! :-)

Also, I think both a good job and a successful relationship are seen as status symbols of sorts by society even though those things really shouldn't be how we judge a person's character or personality.

Struke said...

Great point, Daisy, about status symbols of jobs and relationships. That is so true.

My main motivation for posting this was that I was in a relationship with a long time friend of mine for about four months. Things were going really well. She was talking about spending future times together and other things. Things were looking very good. However, there are issues on her side that she is dealing with and thought the best thing to do would be to end our relationship. She ended it....with an e-mail.

Daisy said...

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that, Struke. I don't know the circumstances, but it seems to me that ending the relationship with an email was kind of cold and a bit cowardly. She could have at least told you face to face, especially since you have known her a long time. Like you said in your post, that's just a matter of respect.